那天看见谁在论坛里说人生的两大郁闷之事是得不到和得到（意思大概是这个，原话记不得了）。我拿此话跟别人探讨，他还特别跟我指出此说法应该只适用于物质上的得到。要不是我本人的悟性与警惕性双高，还真的被他唬住了。我觉得那句话基本是放之四海皆准的，只是郁闷的程度不同而已。
得到之后的郁闷，有一个很有效的办法化解： 跟周围的人的瑟 -- 为的是从他人的赞美中延长自己那一份得到的快感。我第二天上班跟同事说我纹身了，同事大吃一惊要看。我撩起头发给他看我那个for fun的。
"you are crazy" he said, "you know other people tattoo the names of their loved ones"
"oh, i do have name in my other tattoo" i said
"you have another one? show me"
"not in the office"
"how come? where is it?"
我用手隔着衣服外边指我左边后背肩胛骨的地方。
"come one, show me" he insisted.
"ok, ok"
我轻轻将左肩的衣服褪下给他看我那颗心，我开始不想给他看也并非是因为我担心在办公室露后背，而是我觉得那个褪衣服的动作有点办公室不宜的感觉。
"nicely done" he said after examining my back, "see, it is just a shoulder, do not be conservative"
"i am not, just do not wanna confuse people who walk by..." i said.
"you did not say a word before, and boom! you are here with two tattoos on your back. wow, wow..." he said.
这种suprising的效果非常好，好比是对我那自我膨胀欲望的一剂booster shot... 但是但是，我知道，赶走郁闷的最根本的办法就是树立下一个目标，the next little excitement in my life. 噢，耶~~~~（其实叫唤声音越大，是心里越虚的表现，所以适度就好）