我的律师帮我在办ground fault divore.理由1。我老公在并没有双方提出离婚时，不让我回家。不让我回家拿东西。最后我报警。拿回部分东西。这是故意遗弃。2他有外遇。我有email和录音磁带可以证明他commit adultery. 3.在我们结婚期间他用言语对我精神折磨，侮辱。
请看了下面整个事件叙述后，给我一些帮助吧。我其实不想跟他争财产，赡养费。我只想他给一些赔偿。帮助我重新在美国生活。我需要他在settlement agreement 中承认至少一点错。那么我可以找移民律师有多的机会将我conditional green card 转长期的。还有想问ground fault divorce 的程序 有谁清楚吗？因为我不知道，如果双方达成agreement,是否还要出庭court hearing?因为我找了工作再florida，以补贴昂贵的律师费。
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My hu*****and and I got married in april,2005. By the end of 2005 we signed the divorce paper.
The reason was very complicated. We thought we didn’t match.Then I returned to singapore to continue my study.(I met him online when I was in singapore in 2004 and left over everything just for love and the desire of having a happy family of myself). You can tell the foundation is not very good. But we both are Christians. ,I thought our love can overcome any difficulties. Culture , education, age(12 years gap), habits---- there are many differences, we need time to adjust. but he was not patient with me.I kept telling him its me to relocate, I need some time, but he is so self centered,and I got hurt much.Just because I cant drive well,he said that buy me a ticket ,go back to your Singapore. so in Dec, 2005 we decided to go the separate way.I didnt ask for any compensation.
However right after I left,he talked with me over phone,persuaded me to go back..I still love him. So after he promised he would make certain changes which really bothered me, I say ok. Because God hates divorce. And we have the commitment to one another.He then told the attorney to do the reverse of the divorce. Because I left the states before the green card issued, I could not go back right away. He used another lawyer to help get me a visa( In fact my I485 was pending, because of the USCIS's mistake, I didnt get my green card in time.) so in 2006 the whole year we kept in touch by phone and internet. During the time, he wavered and wavered .Each time i forgave him, because I asked God to make me a mature good Christian wife, accept my hu*****and the way he is and to him, with God's help we can work out.My hu*****and agreed with me, however he is not a stable person due to past experiences both in marriage and business, Each time I wish I can speak life onto him. I thought I did all I can do. Finally, i was granted my Conditional PR status.. I quit my job as a teacher in singapore,then heading home.
After separated for more than one year in Feb 2007 we reunited. I told him I stayed for two weeks then I had to return to Singapore to finish my Master program in one month and I would return by the end April and be with him permanently. Start last year he was involved in a new business, works day and night. The two weeks when we were together, He only took me out for dinner once, he said very sorry, I told him I understood. Even though I knew the problem between us cant be solved by short period of time, but I had faith in God, in him.Since my hu*****and always told me he loved me,nobody can replace me.( I trusted him so much, in May, 2006 He wanted to divorce me,because he told me he had been talking to a Korean woman, I still forgave him,look how silly I am) I gave him everything, but he never cherished me, besides sweet words he didnt do anything for me.One week after I returned to signapore,He called and wanted to divorce,I said how can you treat me like this? Why played game with me, if you dont love me, why not tell me in the states, why hold my life for another year? if you already had your plan, you should let me know early, i will not beg.
I left all my things ,money there.The moment he sent me to the airport,he still told me he loved me.Man is just not trustworthy. When I returned to singapore I heard my mom in shanghai was very sick, How I wish I could seek comfort from my hu*****and,until i got hold of him, he gave me the last strike: get your things back, divorce, I will support you the way you go. You can tell how depressed I was. I only need a stable hu*****and, I sacrificed myself so much,just wanted to be with him and i thought God will restore our relationship. Now He only said : Im very sorry to bring you up to the top of the mountain and then push you down to the bottom of the valley. How selfish he is. I felt being fooled, cheated and used. My pain is so much, I didnt know where is the way.
In May 2007 I returned to states ,partly because deep in my heart I had the last hope of my marriage, I wish we might do something to give it a last try. In fact in March and April I wrote him several emails, hope he would think about the happy time in the past, instead of focusing on bad moments. He didn’t respond to me. And told me stop convincing him. I said I must go back home in the states, talk with him face to face. He had no right to ask me to go just like chasing away a puppy dog. He said NO. To me He seemed had his mind made. But I don’t think He could abandon me like this. No matter what I had to talk with him face to face. So I returned to USA on May 9th. I had to stay at NJ my aunt’s place since I knew he didn’t allow me to go back..
When He knew I returned he was surprised. He came to New Jersey to see me, we had dinner. To me He didn’t mention divorce ,did that mean He wanted to work things out with me? However the next week he just called every day we didn’t have deep conversations.When I finally asked him when he could take me home, he said NO. The reason after such a long time I finally was told he had never stopped the relationship with that 43 year old Korean woman. And He committed adultery. What ridiculous was even at this moment, he still told me he loved me and wanted to date with me see how things going. While I m 3 hours away from his place ,that woman is 4 min away.He just played games……Who gave him the right to control my life like this…..I cried so much.: with no place to go, nobody to help ; jobless homeless again, where is the new direction I asked God again and again, But this time I want to protect myself, He has no right to treat me like a cheap Chinese product. Finally When I tried to just get my things back( in PA) ,he said NO again. I discussed with him, he didn’t agree, just said I could mail them to you. Or I could pass them to you. He said no reason, just didn’t allow me to get back to my house to get my belongings. I had no choice .(10th ,June, My aunt drove me back, he didn’t open the door, I had to call the police to involve. But I got no chance to get to upstairs, he put all my stuff on the doormat. ( still miss some). His behavior so mean and cruel,which hurt me so so much. His action told me he just abandoned me. What drives me crazy is the next day 11th June, he called and said how about forgot the past and lets date….. He talked about Lord again--- all the words, excuses just wanted to make himself feel better. He has felt guilty deep inside. I cant take any more hurt ,torture, trauma , people said I should leave him years ago instead of going back to a pirate ship. Its time to be over