xiaobaitu2007-12-04 20:17:23
丈夫是美籍华人,2004年初我以未婚妻签证到美。丈夫已经53岁,比我大14岁。他和前妻有一个20岁的女儿,他跟我结婚的主要目的是要我给他生孩子,具体来说是想生个儿子。我在2005年8月和2007年2月一年半的时间里分别生下两个女儿,均是剖腹产。另外,我和前夫有个10岁的女儿,也是剖腹产(总共3次剖腹产)。我丈夫跟我结婚后,一直把我当佣人和生孩子工具,处处以居高临下的态度对待我,说是他把我从中国弄到美国来的,叫我对他感恩戴德。

我跟他结婚时,他是负资产,所有钱财均在股票市场输掉,还欠下二三十万的债,这些债务在2005年付清。我跟他结婚时是住在租的两房一厅的公寓里。他一直说他跟我结婚时没签婚前协议,说我占了他的大便宜。现在他想出了一个婚后协议,他拿给我看。我跟他结婚后,他的生意一下子好了很多,这几年赚了有几百万,可以说现在的所以财产都是婚后积累下来的。婚后协议主要几点如下:

1. Ivan wants the right to use the money, which he is the sole bread earner, the way he see fit. Karen, a home-maker will be given the present salary by him plus $5000 a month. She obviously has the right to spent the money as she likes .
2. Ivan wishes to have more children or at least one more and Karen doesn’t want to and Karen is also getting old and had 3 c-sections, one c-section from previous marriage. Karen may decide to have one more and to start trying to conceive after Aug-Sept 2008. So the couple with wait till that time to decide whether they will stay together or go their own way
3. If they were to divorce. Ivan will give Karen one million dollar in 3 installments and complete it within 3 years or sooner.
4. Then Ivan will continue the present salary plus the $5000 per month till the youngest become 18 years old. The salary will discontinue on the day Karen marries someone else.

结婚几年来,尽心尽力照顾这个家庭,家务样样是好手,现在心已凉透,不想和这样的人继续过日子,请大家帮我看看这样的离婚条件对和我孩子们公不公平? 他给我的薪水是税前6万,税后4万多。(因为我在中国是职业妇女,大公司的部门经理,他说到美国后不需要我工作,只需要照顾家庭,他会给我一份薪水,由我自由支配。其实我在家帮他做很多paper work的工作。)

他说想我明年再给他生一个孩子,如果还是女孩,他不甘心,但我年纪已大,开了四刀,不能再生了,他说会找别人再帮他生儿子。这样的情况,我怎么能再被他利用一次做他生孩子的工具,因此想跟他离婚,他同意离婚照他的婚后协议上的条件。

taotaomao2007-12-04 21:00:15
AllWillHave2007-12-04 21:38:22
想不到有些美国人也这样地想要生儿子。
Latony2007-12-04 21:39:37
There must be good reason for her. We should understand her.
pharmacyelite2007-12-04 21:40:36
Well, everyone wants GC, money, good life at same time.
Latony2007-12-04 21:46:15
Right, everyone hope to have good life even you are in China
blackbird-md2007-12-04 21:51:39
美国人? 骨子里还是中国人.
xiaobaitu2007-12-04 22:32:04
如果是地道的美国人,才不会做这种赔本生意---为了生孩子娶老婆