I often ask my friends these two questions. one is "what are you going to do if you have 100 million USD?" The search for the answers will help them find what they would love to do instead of having to do. The other is "if you have 24 hours to live, how are you going to spend your time?" The answers might reveal something important to them, which they have not done yet.
What are your answers? you don't have to share with me :D